I had a wonderful experience a few years ago that changed my life forever. I grew up in a home where dictatorship was used by my father, then I married a man very similar to my father. I felt very powerless to change my circumstances. Through a hard trial and the mercy of our father in heaven I was able to get out of my very unhealthy environment. I still felt powerless most of the time and brought that baggage into my new marriage. So, back to my experience, I was driving down the road with my little children and we were singing primary music. I distinctly felt, "what a good choice you are making" and then it hit me really hard that I was not powerless and that every single choice I made would determine the rest of my life. No one was ever going to take my choices from me. I knew that my life was in my hands and that I could change my future for the better through MY righteous choices and that the Lord would help me! I had complete control and with the power of the atonement I had hope! What a gift we have been given of free agency.
I know that when someone says that they lost their temper or that they do not have control of this wicked tendency they are only lying to themselves, also anyone not willing to admit they have a problem and try to change will cause generations of pain.
“Anger can be controlled.
He that hath the spirit of contention is not of me.
The Lord expects us to make the choice to not get angry.
Anger is a yielding tot Satan’s influence by surrendering our self-control
That which cometh out of a mouth defileth a man
Let husband and wife never speak in loud tones to each other unless the house is on fire, David. O McKay
Anger is often mislabeled as discipline but is almost always counterproductive.
Fathers provoke not your children to anger lest they be discouraged.
Understanding the connection between agency and anger is the first step in eliminating it from our lives, we can choose not to become angry.
The 121st section of the Doctrine and Covenants is one of our best sources to learn correct leadership principles. Perhaps the most important application of section 121 is to spouses and parents. We are to lead our families by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness, kindness, and meekness, and by love unfeigned (see D&C 121:41–42).
May each child’s dream of having a family here on earth that is good to them come true”
Children deserve to be treated the way Christ would treat them, I pray that I may do better in this important matter. I will pray for more help to never get angry again.
Having the knowledge that we have power over our own bodies and that Satin is just that nagging little voice that just never goes away can become quite disturbing in its own right. Satin also known as Lucifer has takin upon himself to be the one that wants to destroy all that Heavenly Father has created. One way to do this is to tear down the individual first then the family. In the scriptures, we read:
“Behold, this is not my doctrine, to stir up the hearts of men with anger, one against another; but this is my doctrine, that such things should be done away” (Book of Mormon, 3 Ne. 11:29–30, pg. 429-430)
We are told hear that anger is not something that was learned from god, but it was a trate that was instilled into man over time by that small nagging voice that is constantly in ones eare that never goes away. Elder L.G. Robbins uses a quote in his writings that says:
“David O. McKay said, “Let husband and wife never speak in loud tones to each other, ‘unless the house is on fire’ ” (Stepping Stones to an Abundant Life, comp. Llewelyn R. McKay [1971], 294)” Elder L.G. Robbins, "Agency and anger," Ensign, May 1998, 80.)
The ultimate joy is to surrender completely to God. We turn everything over to Him and life gets inexpressibly good.” (Goddard, H. W. (2007). Drawing heaven into your marriage: powerful principles with eternal results. Fairfax, VA: Meridian Pub.)
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